Planning A Meet Up With A Friend You Haven’t Seen In Years; How To Make It Less Awkward?
Childhood friends are definitely special. After all, they are the friends you make when you still haven’t learn to guard your feelings or filter your thoughts so you’re completely honest and open to them. College friends are a different category; as they are the friends you make as you discover yourself. With them, you’ve probably experienced things to talk about years to come…! But despite how close they were once, and how special they were to you once-upon-a-time, if you had lost contact with them over the years, and are thinking of reuniting with them, then it’s normal to feel a little nervous. If you feel your meet up or reunion might be a little awkward, here are a few tips to make it less so…
- Plan it out through a call, not a text – more often than not, these kind of organizing happens through a text message or in a chat group. More often that not, that message gets over looked or buried under the hundreds of messages you might get after. If you really want to make a reunion with an old friend happen, we suggest you call them up and get the planning done. Trust us, this is one on of the basic tips to ensure your reunion actually happens.
- Confirm when the date is close – say you planned to meet up during the vacations; but there’s still a few months left to go. When the day approaches, don’t forget to reconfirm the reunion. Sudden changes of plans might happen, or they might have even forgotten your “date”; so it’s always best to confirm. Give this reminder call around a week or two before you are supposed to meet…just in case.
- Meet somewhere public – no matter how close you were before, if you haven’t met them in a long time, chances are that you both might have changed quite a bit since you last met. While growth is always good, if it was growth in the opposite directions, you might find it uncomfortableespecially if you meet at home. Instead, choose restaurants in Central Hong Kong, cafes or other public places to meet at. The food will definitely help you melt the ice as well.
- Keep it short – as you never know how well your conversation with them and the reunion in general will go, it’s best to try and keep this meeting short. There’s a time limit that you could spend in bars, cafes and other public establishments; so it’s convenient once more. make sure you both have a way of getting home without depending on the other for a ride home; just in case the reunion didn’t go as planned.
- Don’t make plans for a second meet up immediately – don’t make the mistake of even joking about a repeat meet up with them; not unless you really hit it off at your reunion. Remember that they might not feel the same as you; only making it awkward and having to come up with excuses. Keep things uncommitted. You could always make a plan later…